It's one of the most commonly asked questions of people who have recovered from DPDR. So what does Derealization / Depersonalization recovery FEEL like?
Well, the short answer is that it feels great!
100% Depersonalization recovery is truly a gift. I am so, so grateful that I have my life and career back on track and that I’m no longer a prisoner to anxious thinking and feelings of Depersonalization and Derealization.
In particular, I am SO happy that I am able to travel and see the world again -- as that was a very strong fear for me and something I thought I would never be able to do again.
There are times when I look back and remember that I lost a full two years of my life to Depersonalization before figuring out the way to recover. It’s hard to believe!
So what is the Derealization / Depersonalization recovery process like?
Here’s a very brief overview of the stages of Depersonalization recovery!
4. You Accept That Depersonalization + Derealization Are Not Dangerous
Yes, the symptoms of Depersonalization and Derealization are very frightening -- there’s no doubt about that. But that doesn't change the fact that Depersonalization and Derealization cannot harm you.
Of course they can't. Why not?
Because they are normal, natural, common symptoms of anxiety. That's all.
Is muscle tension dangerous? How about sweating? How about hyperventilation?
Ok, none of these anxiety symptoms are pleasant -- but they are also absolutely not dangerous.
And just like them, DP and DR are also not the most pleasant experience, but they are NOT dangerous.
They can't hurt you and they will never, ever, turn into anything worse.
That basic realization is absolutely fundamental to the Derealization / Depersonalization recovery process.
Why so? Because it means you accept it’s ok to be scared and -- just for the time being -- you can allow it to exist without overwhelming you.
3. You Stop Overreacting To Good Days and Bad Days
Recovering from Derealization and Depersonalization means you’re going to have good days and bad days.
And that's ok! Why?
Because recovery from ANY anxiety-based condition -- or ANY habit of thought -- means you're going to have good days and bad days.
Is that a problem? An obstacle to recovery?
Of course not. It's a normal and natural part of the recovery process. It is to be expected.
Recovery from any anxiety-based condition is never, ever a smooth curve that lessens every day.
It's more like the stock market or a mountain range! There are going to be ups and downs, spikes and drops in anxiety levels, good days and bad.
But again -- That's NOT a bad thing. In fact -- it's a very positive thing and it means that you're on the right track.
But it WILL even out over time. The bad days become less dramatic and things just start to flatten out as you get 100% back to normal.
The trick is to not to overreact to either the good days or the bad days.
You don’t allow yourself to feel too down when you feel DPDR, but at the same time, you don’t allow yourself to get overly excited when you start having completely DPDR-free days (which you will do, very soon!)
Why is this? Because doing so reinforces the belief that the DPDR itself is IRRELEVANT.
Good or bad, whether it’s there or not, you do not allow it to overly affect your emotions.
This habit, strengthened by some simple rules to follow each day, will completely defuse the power that the DPDR has over you.
2. You Stop Caring Whether DPDR Is There Or Not
This is a BIG sign that you're recovering from Depersonalization and Derealization!
The feelings of DPDR (and the anxiety that's driving them) may come and go, but it affects you less and less.
Sure, it might be there sometimes -- But it doesn’t bother you or affect your behaviour or day-to-day choices anymore.
It may seem like a small thing, but it's a big deal. Why?
Because you're actively giving the DPDR less and less space in your mind and in your life.
You are removing all the narrative scaffolding that propped up DPDR in the first place.
You understand that the only reason that it became an ongoing problem in the first place was because you were misinterpreting your body and brain's natural and correct defense mechanisms.
The only reason you cared about it was not because you were actually in danger, but because you got into the habit of caring about it!
When you understand what DPDR actually is, you can start to let go of that habit.
1. You Start To Forget About DPDR Completely
Of all the stages of Depersonalization recovery, this is really the sign that you're on the home stretch!
So you know those little windows of time in which you're not thinking about DPDR?
(If you've only the condition for a short time, these windows are usually quite small. Maybe 10-20 seconds if you're playing a video game or watching a movie!)
Well, those windows of time get bigger, and they get closer together. You start to have more and more stretches of time in which you're just not thinking about Depersonalization / Derealization at all.
And when you notice that you haven't been thinking about DPDR, you're less likely to then immediately start focusing on it again. Because why would you?
You know that even if it was quite a scary experience, it's temporary and harmless and it will fade away and stop.
And just like having a song stuck in your head, the forgetting about it happens not when you're focusing on the song and trying to forget about it, but when you're focusing away from it.... and just listening to other music!
Your brain understands that it simply doesn't need to have the DPDR around anymore, and so it lets it go and forgets about it -- just like it does with any other habit of thought when the focus is taken away from it.
In the same way that you forget that you were supposed to have a song stuck in your head, you simply forget that you're supposed to have Depersonalization / Derealization.
And it fades away and stops, completely.
I know that the symptoms of Depersonalization and Derealization can be very frightening, confusing and even overwhelming.
But in simple, practical terms, what you've been experiencing is actually very simple.
DPDR and all of its symptoms, are just symptoms of anxiety. Because DPDR is an anxiety-based condition.
And like all anxiety-based conditions, DPDR needs your attention in order to exist.
Your attention is its oxygen. When you deprive it of your attention, you deprive it of the oxygen it needs to exist.
And when you do that consistently, it fades away and stops as if it had never been there.
Along the way, you too will encounter the stages of Depersonalization recovery I've outlined above.
Why? Because you’re basically reversing the process that caused the DPDR to become a thought-habit in the first place -- and then total recovery happens quite quickly.
And yes, that’s total Derealization and Depersonalization recovery -- no strings attached, without any trace of DPDR left, without having to deal with residual anxiety or fears.
It’s gone, and you’re back to the person you were before you ever even knew what Depersonalization was.
I did it after two years of chronic Depersonalization, and I know thousands of people who did it after far more - and far less - time with DPDR.
And you can do it too.
The Derealization / Depersonalization recovery process works 100% of the time, simply because it HAS to work.
And if you're wondering if you're REALLY back to the same person you were before DPDR?
The answer is YES -- You will 100% get back to the person you used to be!
Derealization / Depersonalization recovery isn’t a shot in the dark -- it’s a step-by-step reversal of what caused the DPDR to become a thought-habit in the first place.
There are core concepts you’ll need to understand and essential rules you’ll need to follow in order for it to work -- but it’s very simple and easy to follow.
You can and will recover, 100%.
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